In her podcast “Better than Sex,” Leila Lowfire discusses taboo sexual topics – from ingrown pubic hair to the perfect gangbang. On Tele 5 she has her own show called “Vendetta Lametta” with her podcast colleague Ines Anioli. The 25-year-old from Berlin is also a sought-after nude model.
The interview was conducted by Clara Westhoff.
Leila, what makes you an expert when it comes to sex?
I wouldn't call myself an expert. I am very curious, approach new things with an open mind and have tried out a lot of things. That's why I can tell many stories about it. But I don't know everything about sex either.
Can you remember how you were enlightened?
I have an older sister, so I was educated pretty early on. And it's really nice with a picture book - the man's thing comes in and then a baby comes out. I would also be open with my children right from the start.
You are also often seen in very provocative roles in modeling and acting. Aren't you afraid of only being associated with eroticism?
No, I was already aware of that when I started taking nude photos. Of course I would prefer if people saw the art behind it. Even if I were a bank teller, people would associate me with sex just because I have a big bust. That's why I decided relatively early on to simply make this my career.
Even today there are still sayings like “Well, if she walks around so provocatively, she shouldn’t be surprised at being grabbed and groped.” Have you also had similar experiences?
This is the worst bullshit. But I was allowed to hear something like that again and again. Why can't you celebrate being a woman and feel good when you wear something that flatters your figure? I can't understand that at all and this “asking for it” debate already has such a long beard. You should wear exactly what you feel like wearing. Without fear that the victim will be blamed for sexual harassment. Everyone should understand that by now.
We chat all day long, but it's not uncommon for us to be speechless in bed. Women would rather fake an orgasm than clearly tell their partner what works and how. Should we speak up more?
For a long time, the topic of “faking an orgasm” was really a tough discussion point on the podcast. I think that's terrible. Not only am I consciously foregoing my climax, but I'm also making my partner believe that what I obviously didn't find sufficient to make me come was perfect for me.
And how do you make it better?
I'm all for dirty talk in bed. Otherwise, you can clearly say what you're into during, in between or afterwards. Something like “I really like it when you do it like that” is always better than “That was really shitty”. What I like to do is challenge my partner. It won't get down to business until I've arrived. After a short time, the woman is forced to give instructions or is asked for help. This way you are not only guaranteed to have this orgasm, but also future ones.
Other topic. Have you ever thought about studying?
As a child I always wanted to be a doctor. But at some point I realized that people can die if you make a mistake. I found that really bad. That's why I wanted to become a pathologist, because people are already dead. I also did an internship in pathology - but that was too much work with the microscope for me.
And if you had to choose a course of study now, what would it be?
I would study medicine - but only if I could stop the time for it. I wouldn't want to give up the life I have now without studying. Studying medicine is simply extremely time-consuming. I also worked in PR at one point, so maybe I would also go into communications.
At US elite universities such as Harvard, the proportion of virgins is around 50 percent. What do you think: Do career-conscious people have less sex?
If you're at an elite university and have the academic pressure, you definitely have less time to live out things. So I can well imagine it. If you're such a head person, you certainly wouldn't do all the things I've done in my life. I'm more of a heart and vagina person. I once had an affair with a management consultant. That worked extremely well as long as we met in the evenings and went to his place. One morning we went for a walk and that was the first time we really talked. I was totally shocked that he only talked about business ideas. Other things bother me, which is why we didn't see each other again after that.
Students often have long-distance relationships. Do you have some tips?
I also had this for a long time and we really tried having sex on the phone and over FaceTime. That's nothing for me. But you can listen to voice notes at your leisure and also rewind them if you particularly like a part. And waking up to sexy photos or videos in the morning is never wrong in my opinion.
And is there anything that is “better than sex” for you?
Definitely: a good, long conversation.
In her podcast “Better than Sex,” Leila Lowfire discusses taboo sexual topics – from ingrown pubic hair to the perfect gangbang. Read the interview here.
